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Nature of the Problems

Why do couples stop appreciating each other and take each other for granted?

There can be various reasons why couples may stop appreciating each other and take each other for granted over time. Some common factors include becoming complacent in the relationship, getting caught up in daily routines and responsibilities, lack of communication or emotional intimacy, unresolved conflicts, and a shift in priorities. Stress, external pressures, and distractions can also contribute to a decrease in appreciation and attention within the relationship. It's important for couples to be mindful of these patterns and actively work on

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nurturing gratitude, expressing appreciation, and maintaining emotional connection.

How Therapy Can Help

Couples who live together who stopped valuing each other or are afraid of commitment or both and need to be happy again. In our Treasure Therapy™ approach, I will help couples to:

  1. Have a more mutually satisfying relationship.

  2. Come to a better understanding (attunement) of your partner’s experience.

  3. Value each other’s contributions to the relationship.

  4. Identify fears that you have about staying in the relationship.

  5. Identify their role in the relationship (transactional analysis).

  6. Recommit to each other with an unconditioned commitment to each other.


While the ultimate outcome of a couple is up to you, our goal is that you and your partner will at least score a higher level of attunement on the Relationship Balance Assessment and score a higher score on relationship satisfaction scales.

  • 1. What is psychotherapy?
    Psychotherapy, also known as talk therapy or counseling, is a collaborative process between a trained therapist and an individual seeking support. It aims to explore thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and experiences to promote personal growth, emotional well-being, and address specific concerns. Psychotherapy encompasses various approaches, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and humanistic therapy, tailored to meet the individual's needs.
  • 2. How long does psychotherapy last?
    The duration of psychotherapy varies depending on several factors, including the individual's goals, the complexity of their concerns, and their progress throughout the therapeutic process. Some individuals may benefit from short-term therapy, consisting of a few sessions or weeks, to address specific issues or provide immediate support. Long-term therapy may span several months or years, focusing on deeper exploration and ongoing personal development. The therapist and individual collaborate to determine the appropriate duration of therapy based on their unique circumstances.
  • 3. How do I find the right therapist for me?
    Finding the right therapist involves considering several factors. It's important to seek a licensed and qualified therapist with expertise in the specific concerns you want to address. You can ask for recommendations from trusted sources, such as healthcare professionals or friends who have had positive experiences with therapy. Online directories and therapist matching platforms can also help you find therapists in your area. Additionally, it's crucial to feel comfortable and have a good rapport with your therapist, so scheduling an initial consultation or phone call to assess the fit is recommended.
  • 4. Do you accept insurance?
    For mental health issues, we accept Blue Cross Blue Shield and affiliates (CareFirst, Anthem, BCBS Federal Employee Program, etc.) and Cigna or Evernorth. HOWEVER, please note that to qualify for insurance benefits, therapy must be related to a mental health diagnosis, like anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc., that has medical necessity. Most insurance plans do not cover relationship or sexual issues. Yes, it is sad considering that these are often the primary drivers for mental health issues. Please do not ask us to bill your insurance for relationship or sexual issues without first contacting your insurance company to check to see if your plan covers it. (We don't want to keep asking them.) Also, we cannot make up a diagnosis either, as this is insurance fraud and can cost us our license and result in serious penalties. Plus, insurance companies occasionally audit psychotherapy notes to ensure that treatment is related to the reported diagnosis. You can always choose to skip insurance and pay for therapy out of pocket. This will maximize your privacy and widen your pool of therapists. Thank you for your understanding.
  • 5. Is psychotherapy confidential?
    Confidentiality is a fundamental principle in psychotherapy. Therapists are legally and ethically bound to maintain the privacy and confidentiality of the information shared during therapy sessions. However, there are a few exceptions to confidentiality, such as when there is a risk of harm to oneself or others, child or elder abuse, or when a court order requires the disclosure of information. Your therapist should explain their confidentiality policy and any exceptions during the initial sessions.
About Dr. Luttrell

Dr. Luttrell can help you reconnect and realign with your truth authentic self by restoring emotional intimacy with yourself, partner, family, business, or spiritual relationships. He believes that understanding emotions are important to overcome obstacles of shame, fear, or shame-based cycles of addiction. His focus areas tend to be on romantic relationships, sexuality, the impact of hurtful habits, and spirituality.

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